Happy: A Quest for Life After Death

Sunday, May 08, 2011

Mother's Day

Mother's Day is a mixed bag under the best of circumstances. Although children can be sweet, Mother's Day is really about what Dad does to make Mom feel special, right? Today, without Mat, I thought it would be about as much fun as a poke in the eye with a sharp stick.

Mat didn't actually have the best record with Mother's Day, however. One year he forgot entirely. I realized this pretty quickly, but decided not to say anything (e.g., be a martyr). All morning I thought, "It's OK. It's no big deal that he forgot Mother's Day." I repeated this mantra in my head until about noon, when a flip switched (probably prompted by a tantrum from one of the boys, then two and five). I gave Mat a piece of my mind and stormed out the door to take a long, long walk.

While I was gone, he wrote me a a book of cartoons called, The Mother's Day Book for Kimberly, or "Trying to Think Like I Think You Might Be Thinking."

The first page features a conversation between worms. The wife worm says, "You remembered!" and the husband worm is saying, "Of course. I may be a slimy worm but I wouldn't forget Mother's Day!"

Another page features my two-year-old standing on my head, saying (as he often did), "I want juice!"

I came back from my walk with a cooler head, the book made me laugh, and all was forgiven.

And now I have a book that Mat wrote for me, and a good story to go with it.

I'm so glad Mat forgot Mother's Day.


SLP said...

I was thinking of you today, hoping that your day would be filled with hugs and love from your boys, friends and family.
Happy Mother's Day Dear Friend,

amydear said...

So sweet! When Jillian was 1, Kyle made me a cartoon card of all the things we did together. I still love to read it. Thinking of you!

Rachel Morrow said...

Love it! It is such a blessing that you have his journals and special things like his cartoon apology!

One Woman's Thoughts said...

I am so glad for you that you have a sweet little book to read again and bring a sweet and funny thought to your heart.

Sandy said...

how is it that you can make someone laugh and cry at the same time?